Tech is for Everyone

I really do believe that there are roles in technology for anyone. And given the supply vs demand problems in the field I think it would be great if I was right.

Meanwhile, a friend who has been a restaurant server most of her life is thinking about what she can do other than waiting tables. If ever there was an anyone it is her. And if I succeed then more women in tech! Double win.

Today we had our first hang out. The very first thing I tried to figure out is what sort of learner she is. I enjoy teaching in part because I enjoy learning and so I’ve done a bit of reading about how people learn.

There are between three and nine learning styles depending on who you ask. There is:
[audio, visual, kinetic],
[environmental, emotional, sociological, physiological, psychological],
[visual, musical, verbal, physical, logical, social, solitary],
[visual, auditory, kinesthetic, abstract, concrete, contemplative, active, macro, micro]
[visual, kinesthetic, auditory, stress, ease, scribble, trust, teach, copy]…

Like all categories & taxonomies there are overlaps, nuances, different angles, and entire schools of thought. Which one is right doesn’t matter. It’s what you can do with the knowledge gained from knowing about the options.

So I asked her about how she learned best, what ways meant she’d remember & which ways she forgot. I assured her that none is better than the other that I just wanted to know so I could make sure to share videos not articles or vice versa.

My student learns best from being shown, second best from doing something herself, and third best listening to people. Reading just never sticks.

She doesn’t have a computer of her own so I sat her down in front of mine. I taught her to recognize the symbol for the power button and a bit about user accounts. I explained that she couldn’t save anything on my computer but that was ok because she could save everything on the internet in the “cloud” which was a collection of vapor that was her stuff.

She has an email account that she never checks with a cute nick so we created her a gmail with her real name which will be her professional email address. She liked the idea of having her personal life separate.

I had her set up a lastpass account to keep track of all the future passwords. I showed her how to get at passwords there. What good passwords are made of.

I showed her how emails can be upper or lower case, that periods are ignored, and + can give you extra words. How to tab through a form or a page or links. How to ctrl-t to make a new tab, ctrl-a to select all, ctrl-c for copy, and ctrl-v for paste but who knows what v is for. She got overwhelmed. I promised a cheat sheet.

It all took an hour and a half. I served tea. I chatted. We talked concepts like lastpass being a safety deposit box and how if she was a rich executive who had a ton of credit cards to keep track of it might be a good place to put the numbers but for every day people it was enough to just use it for passwords.

We finished when we felt done. She has two homework assignments:

  1. Get a library card to get free access to training videos on
  2. Write down on paper what she thinks she knows about computers, why she wants to learn more, and a general introduction. She’s going to blog!
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Fighting Stereotypes: #ILookLikeAnEngineer

Once upon a time a software company posted pictures of their employees. The end.

Or not. One of their engineers happened to be a beautiful woman. Out of nowhere she started getting comments and messages, “You don’t look like an engineer, are you sure you’re not a model they hired to pretend to be an engineer?” And ruder. Her response? #ILookLikeAnEngineer

When I first started down the path of becoming a programmer people would tell me that the money wasn’t good (it was just after the dot com crash) or the hours were awful or any number of negatives. Then they would say wouldn’t you rather be a teacher? Or a project manager? Or a product owner? Or a designer? No, actually, I enjoy the act of programming.

There’s a stereotype around what software engineers look like. The effect of that stereotype is that people who don’t fit the stereotype constantly have to explain why they want to be a software engineer. Since women are assumed to be worse at math than men the reason they want to be software engineers is often thought to be something other than love of the (at times) mathematical nature of the work. Instead of defending ideas that I have around programming I end up defending that I can even have those ideas as a woman.

The #ILookLikeAnEngineer campaign touched me. I may not look like a model but I have had been told I don’t look like an engineer. I posted my picture to twitter. I write software. I am an engineer. I look like an engineer.

A week later my boss at Billups asked me if I’d seen #ILookLikeAnEngineer. I showed him my post. He said they wanted to help with the Indiegogo campaign. Then he and the owner of Billups threw the weight of the whole company behind helping get the best possible out-of-home billboard campaign for the project. The team handled the campaign from conception to execution, organizing the printers, getting good deals through contacts in the area, making the whole thing bigger and better pro bono. Yes, pro bono, no charge for our services.

We got the message all over the Bay area – we have coverage in Oakland (Coliseum), Bay Bridge, 101 (Santa Clara & Palo Alto), downtown SF, BART stations. Media formats include: Bulletins (static & digital), Metro-Lights, 2-sheets. (Yes, I’m quoting a coworker who was talking about what we did. I just build the software that helps organize the data and process, everything I know about the process comes from amazing people like Kristana.) AND we partnered with a great data company called ESRI that makes it possible to provide a density map of people in the Bay Area that had a Computer / Mathematical focus for strategic targeted planning. (They also often host the local #golang meetup.)

All that launched this week. What started with me caring about how software engineers who don’t fit the stereotype are viewed became the company I work for doing amazing things for the community. The official press release is here. And yes, they stuck my face on the billboard. Luckily I wasn’t alone and one of the other women who builds Billups’ software was willing to have her picture taken too. So here we are, looking like engineers before going back to work programming in Go, writing tests, creating data structures, building databases, and maintaining our legacy PHP codebase.

Alex & Rebekah looking like engineers

photo credit: Victor Garcia

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Compliments, Credit and Gender oh my

A friend of mine complained to me the other day that since we started talking about feminism he’s started spotting things he never saw before. In this case it was Bechdel Test related conversations around movies and TV. He can’t help but wonder if there are more than one named female character and watch to see if they talk about anything other than men. Once you’re in deep it goes beyond spotting instances of imbalance though and also thinking about the context, depth and possible real life reenactments of those imbalances.

For me, this post started with an episode of Agent Carter. In this particular episode Agent Carter goes on a mission with one of the office guys who regularly dismisses her abilities based on her gender. At the end of the episode they are reporting on the mission and he says, “Really Agent Carter was the one who made this mission a success.”

There it is! Acknowledgement! Change based on his observing her skills instead of clinging to stereotypes. Let everyone on the couch leap up and scream “Touchdown!”

Then it happened. Agent Carter says, “It was a team effort.”

This is where everyone goes “aaaawww” and thinks what a great job she is doing at creating allies and being a team player. They’ve both complimented each other and the universe is in gender balance.

Except not.

This episode followed me around for weeks replaying in my head as I tried to figure out why it wanted my attention. Then someone posted about Grace Hopper and I remembered how when I got started in computer science Grace Hopper was presented as a programmer who worked on the team who created COBOL.

This is how her work in COBOL was/is presented: “In 1952, her team created the first compiler for computer languages (a compiler renders worded instructions into code that can be read by computers). This compiler was a precursor for the Common Business Oriented Language, or COBOL, a widely adapted language that would be used around the world. Though she did not invent COBOL, Hopper encouraged its adaptation.

Which is different than this newer way of looking at her work: “She was one of the first programmers of the Harvard Mark I computer in 1944, and invented the first compiler for a computer programming language, and the one of those who popularized the idea of machine-independent programming languages, which led to the development of COBOL, one of the first high-level programming languages.”

As an engineer I am really good at splitting hairs and I’m going to do it here. There are two stories about Grace Hopper. One is where she was on a team that created COBOL and the other is the one where she was instrumental to the creation of COBOL. Both are true.

Likewise with Agent Carter. She was the reason the mission succeeded and she did it as a member of the team. Both are true.

What’s wrong with being on a team that accomplishes things vs being integral to the accomplishment of things?

This is where we start getting into how credit is given. As people try to increase the number of women in science research is done into historical women who can be used as role models. This research seems to be uncovering a sad number of women who discovered things that men got Nobel Prizes for.

And it’s more than about Nobel Prizes. It’s about paychecks. Rock stars get paid more than the band. It’s about respect. Rock stars get more social credit than the band.

Just recently a coworker sent out a status report on a project she’s on. It was amazing, thorough and well written. More than well written – highly readable and entertaining while imparting a lot of real information. I sent her a “good job” email. She replied, “Thanks, I couldn’t have done it without the team” and named some of the people who helped her.

She wrote that status report. She made it readable. She credited the team. These are all good things.


If all the men reply, “Thanks” and all the women reply, “Thanks, it was a team effort” then who is the creator and who is the support? Who is vital to the project and who is replaceable? Who gets the award for the successful launch and who did the other half of the work? Who gets a raise?

This ties the topic around to women in United States culture and how we receive compliments. I told a male friend today he looked good. He said, “Thanks.” I told a female friend she looked good. She said, “Thanks, this is a new top I really love it.” There are a ton of articles about how women deflect compliments. I don’t need to add to it. What I do want to point out is that women deflecting compliments regarding work also deflects credit away from them.

Grace Hopper was on a team that created the first compiler.

Larry Wall created Perl.

Nobody says Larry Wall worked on a team that resulted in Perl. Larry Wall alone magically created Perl in the basement of a tech company. The Lone Man Made Things.

There are important stories being perpetuated here and women themselves are helping perpetuate them. Grace Hopper didn’t want credit. She wanted to work. I  don’t want credit. I just want to do my job. Yet a side effect of not taking credit, of sharing the compliment, is that women are viewed as supports while men are viewed as creators.

This is a surprisingly actionable realization. The next time someone says “good job” all I have to do is say “thank you.” No more, “Couldn’t have done it without [insert team member name here].”

Is this a bigger solution? No. Because it sucks that the fact that I couldn’t have done it without my team can’t be acknowledged without diminishing my own part. Even if he acknowledges me back. It sucks that women are more likely to be viewed in supportive roles than as leads. It sucks that we want rock stars and not symphony orchestras.

But maybe over time as women accept credit, get credit, get respect maybe we can change the dynamic a little. Maybe a solid productive team will be valued more than a lone genius and then all those lonely geniuses can join really nice teams.

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Reviewing; Meta Post

I took a short break from writing twice a day reviews to have an existential crisis about writing reviews. I’m going to review what I’ve decided I’m reviewing for.

On file770, in the middle of some of the most interesting conversations I’ve had in web site comments, someone brought up the dual ideas of compelling questions and conversational analysis. I’m going to focus on compelling questions because that’s the half that I’ve latched onto.

This goes back to my post about Totaled. It was a good story. Had some interesting ideas. Didn’t do it for me and I think the reason why not has to do with compelling questions. Look at Ancillary Justice and the story is full of compelling questions. Then there’s Mono No Aware.

Cutting for spoilers about Mono No Aware, Totaled, and me.

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You had me at IDIC

I have not yet read the Best Fan Writer portion of the Hugo Voters packet but I still delight in this thorough and accurate take-down of one of the nominees who obviously is unfamiliar with Star Trek.

[Note 1: this was followed by a definitive conversation with the spouse about Star Trek and romantic relationships vis a vis Kirk/* where * represents the infinite. Finishing with “and what about Spock and [spoilers] in the new movies!”]

[Note 2: and must link to this (NSFW – Mom, that means you won’t like it) Star Trek slash fic video to Nine Inch Nails, because seriously, Star Trek and slash!]

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STEM Scholarship for Women in Tech

Media Ocean, a really great company, is offering a scholarship for women interested in STEM. Details.

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Reading for the Hugos

Just a bit ago the internet exploded with the news that some people decided to essentially stuff the ballot boxes of the Hugos. There are lots of articles about the whole affair including posts by Connie Willis, John Scalzi, George RR Martin, and Philip Sandifer (some harsh language).

The kicker is that while I have read and loved Hugo Award winners for most of my life I never realized how the Hugo Award winners were chosen. Short version? I can vote!

I love voting! I’m not going to vote this year, there’s not enough time to catch up on all the nominations, but I could be a small part of choosing next year’s Hugo Award winners.

(We’ll just ignore the fact that it’s possible to game the system and that some people think the Hugos are less meaningful because it’s based on fan vote.)  Super excited!

So I’m starting a new little side project that will get me reading more quality works as well as posting more here. I’m going to read a lot of written works that would qualify for the Hugo Awards and review them. Then next year when I vote I can go back through my reviews and choose my favorites.

Five star idea!

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My friend John is growing a mustache to help raise funds to better men’s health. Read more at the site. Consider donating.

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Doing Something Re: #Gamergate

I just wrote to Intel:

Dear Intel,

At OSCON and through other sources I have heard of Intel’s desire to hire more women in the STEM fields. I believe your engineering department understands the benefits of gender diversity as well as other forms of diversity in programming.

Yet meanwhile your advertising department has pulled advertising from sites like Gamasutra because they allowed a handful of men claim any article discussing the changes in the culture of gaming bullies _them_.

How are female engineers (some of whom have left the game development industry) to trust Intel’s stated desire for diversity in STEM when you’re caving to the influence of the worst parts of sexist geek culture?

I am writing not just as someone who buys Intel products but also as someone who lives in Portland and had considered Intel as an interesting potential employer. Sadly, so long as Intel takes its direction from movements like #Gamergate the idea of Intel as an interesting place for women in computer science to work will have to remain past tense.

Thank you for reading all the way through,
Rebekah Golden
BS Computer Science
Software Engineer – 10 yrs

posted publicly in spite of the fact that it will probably get me doxxed and threats

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PSU Critical Disability Studies study

From a friend:

PSU is trying to get a Critical Disability Studies program going, and they need to show interest in it. Here’s a link to a survey about it. Please distribute widely. They want national response. I’d love to see such a thing happen!

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